Well, if you're a cat owner who loves to bond with their cat, but simply find that you can't, it's very frustrating!

Yes, you want to show affection and receive it back, but your cat is never in the mood.

This is a major issue in cat training and cat behavior for cat owners!

What causes this?

Well, it's an important first step to realize that biting and aggressive cat behavior falls into 3 main categories:

1. Offensive aggression.

This is the "overstimulated cat syndrome" as affectionately known in cat circles, but is really seen in 2 common situations.

It can either be caused by stroking your cat a too firmly or for too long, in an otherwise well socialised cat.

Or it's caused by even slight stimulation in a not well socialised cat.

2. Playful stalking.

This is usually your cat trying to tell you something.

Either she's hungry and hasn't been fed enough, she wants to play and hasn't had enough, or wants to go out to do a pee (for outdoor cats).

3. Defensive aggression.

This is more serious and can mean a medical condition is present. Your cat bites but then runs away to hide under the bed. The main distinction here is the withdrawal. See your vet if you think that defensive aggression is possible.

So there you have it.

The first step is to see which group your cat's behavior falls into.

Then assuming it's not defensive aggression, you can learn to teach your cat to enjoy your touch instead of squirming away or being aggressive towards you.

There are steps to do exactly this in this site on cat training and stopping your cat from biting you.